Abstract

Marriage and Reconciliation:
An Interdisciplinary Approach Between Depth Psychology and Orthodox Spirituality
Protopresbyter Bassam Nassif

Social relationships in our postmodern society are facing increasing disintegration, as a result of the rise of individualism, independence, and selfishness. Leading to marital conflicts ending in divorce. In this climate, maintaining unity in marital life and fostering a culture of reconciliation is much needed. In an attempt to overcome this crisis, some couples turn to psychologists seeking solutions. Yet, despite the importance of this step, it often fails to lead to a lasting reconciliation. Psychology does not deal with human passions rooted in the human heart such as egoism and self-centeredness. This paper explores the intersection between psychological science and Orthodox Christian spirituality in dealing with troubled marital relationships. By integrating empirical research on relationship dynamics, effective communication, and conflict resolution with the sacramental and ascetic dimensions of Orthodox theology, this interdisciplinary approach attempts to offer a holistic vision for marital reconciliation. It presents selected models of reconciliation in marriage developed by major twentieth century psychologists such as John Bowlby, Carl Jung, and John Gottman. Alongside these modern approaches, this paper presents corresponding spiritual approaches, drawing from the teachings and pastoral experiences of saints who cared for families, such as Saints Porphyrios of Kavsokalivia, Paisios the Athonite, and John Chrysostom. Through an analysis of these approaches, the paper demonstrates that Christ offers not only psychological cure from guilt and pain, but also a comprehensive existential healing. It highlights how psychological science and spiritual life are integrated through the essential role of the spiritual father, who accompanies the couple toward a mature relationship and a life of holiness.

KEYWORDS: Marriage, Reconciliation, Saint John Chrysostom, Saint Porphyrios of Kavsokalivia, Saint Paisios the Athonite, and John Chrysostom, Carl Jung, John Bowlby, John Gottman.